It’s funny some of the things you hear parents say to their children.

Let me explain.

I was waiting behind a mum and her two boys in a check-out line at a supermarket. Like most kids, these boys were trying all sorts of tricks to get their mum to buy some lollies which just so happened to be placed strategically near the check-out.

During their ‘conversation’, I heard the mum say three cliches that relate to limiting beliefs about money and ‘rich people’.

The first one was, “Do you think money grows on trees?”, which was followed by ” Do you think I have money to burn?”

However, the icing on the cake cliche for me was, “Only the rich people can afford those!” AAAHHHHHHH!!

Many of us are aware that the words we say to our kids helps to program them to be poor or rich.

What do you think this mum’s words were programming into her sons’ belief systems?

Anyway, this ‘conversation’ reminded me of John Burley’s book, “Money Secrets of The Rich”. In it, he listed 27 limiting beliefs about money and rich people that many of use were taught at home.

When you were growing up, were you ever taught, told or led to believe any of these?

1. Money is the ‘root of all evil.’
2. Rich people are evil.
3. Money doesn’t grow on trees.
4. Rich people are greedy and selfish.
5. Rich people are misers and hoard money.
6. Rich people never give money to charities or to the church.
7. To get rich you have to be a crook, a liar, a thief or get lucky.
8. Rich people are like the TV stars we see playing the roles of the rich.
9. Money won’t make you happy.
10. Money isn’t that important anyway.
11. There are more important things in life than money.
12. We don’t have a lot of money because we love our children.
13. If God wanted us to have money, he would give it to us.
14. You have to work hard to make money.
15. Having a lot of money could (would) make you a bad person.
16. If you had a lot of money, you would lose it.
17. If you had a lot of money, you would get sued or audited.
18. If you had a lot of money, your friends and family wouldn’t like you any more.
19. Having a lot of money would be complicated or a hassle.
20. Having a lot of money would mean that you would have to spend a lot of time watching and protecting it.
21. The rich keep getting richer and the poor keep getting poorer.
22. You had better save your pennies for a rainy day.
23. A good job is the way to become rich.
24. When you grow up you’ll learn the value of money.
25. If you went through the Depression like we did . . .
26. A fool and his money are soon parted.
27. Clean your plate, children are starving in Africa.

Do any of these clichés sound familiar to you? What effect did they have on you as you were growing up? which one have affected you the most? Which ones do you say to your children?

Here’s what i invite you to do: Leave a comment about the sayings you have used or have heard people say to kids.

When our kids discover HOW they learn, they absolutely gain more control over their lives.

They are able to demonstrate and share their strengths, boost their self-esteem, become less afraid to make mistakes and increase their capacity to solve problems in life.

OK, what can you do NOW to develop this?

1.    Tap into your child’s learning style so they become a more active and involved learner.

Identify their preferred style (visual, auditory, kinesthetic). Then discover what activities will enhance your kid’s learning style.

2.    Discover HOW smart your kids are by meeting SLIM-N-BIL.

We are ALL intelligent in some way-Spatial, Linguistic, Interpersonal, Musical, Naturalistic, Bodily, Intrapersonal and Logical.

Each intelligence can be enhanced by specific materials, activities and special outings. When you identify their dominant intelligence/s, you will learn what they like to do, what they are good at and how they learn best.

3.    Create a supportive environment which invites and entices your kids to learn…and increase their learning retention.

Every aspect of the learning environment can affect your child’s experiences…lighting, temperature, acoustics, color, décor, seating, posters, music, aroma, plants, pets and toys.

4.    Take and make effective notes with Mind Mapping strategies to enhance your child’s success.

This information tool will increase remembering what is said or read, increase understanding and help organise material. Mind maps are colorful and have lots of pictures and symbols.

The ideas are connected and excellent for memory retention.

5.    Boost you kid’s brainpower by feeding them brain foods, plenty of water and exercise.

Proper nutrition protects the brain against toxins, improves mental alertness and assists memory.
Foods such as animal protein, nuts, legumes and seeds boost alertness.

Water is central to optimal brain functioning. Aerobic exercise improves thinking and learning.

6.    Avoid and relieve stress so your child can process and retain information they need to access more readily.

Have you ever had a person’s name ‘on the tip of your tongue’? No matter how hard you try to remember, the harder it seems to become. When you stop trying and relax, the name comes to you.

By avoiding getting stressed, you are able to stop your mind from going blank. Do some relaxation techniques, listen to music or practise yoga,maybe even T’ai Chi.

7.    Get in a state of focused concentration so your kids can learn faster and easier.

Would you like your kids to learn techniques where time goes faster, they can spend more time doing other things which they really enjoy, get better results on tests, study less, get certain people off their backs and they’ll do better in school?

Then two such techniques are called SLANT and the Alpha State…tools which will help your kids to access the best state for learning.

Here’s what I invite you to do now:

1. Search ‘learning styles‘ & ‘multiple intelligences inventories‘. Complete to identify your/ your child’s preferred style and dominant intelligence/s.
2. Research and then practise relaxation techniques, SLANT and the Alpha State.
3. Eat brain foods, exercise daily and drink 6-8 glasses of water per day.
4. Research Tony Buzan and Mind Mapping.
5. Create a learning environment.

OK, It’s Let’s Talk Time…

I invite you to let us know which of these techniques you are already using with your children? Which ones are effective and have brought about change?

Leave a comment below and share what has worked..what hasn’t …You can do that, can’t you?

Many of us are aware that wealthy people think differently about money. They see opportunities. The rich don’t go and get a job, do they?

How can you mentor your kids to develop their own belief system?

Here’s what I invite you to do:

• Research the differences between rich people and poor people.
• Dare to dream – BIG ones
• Visualise what you intend to have and create it
• Set compelling goals
• Plan how to achieve those Specific, Measurable, As if, Realistic and Timeframe goals. …and then
• TAKE ACTION
  

Ok, you know how it is…

Let’s Talk…

What do you do with your kids to develop their belief system? Let us know by leaving a comment. You will be helping others as well by doing so.